We found the absolute perfect tree for Andrew’s birthday! WoOT WOoT
Denise found it the other day. Denise was browsing around the Walmart nursery, yes Walmart, who knew. She came across this tree and Andrew said “Yes! That’s it!” and he was clapping that clap of his with that big grin of his so she knew this kind of tree was “the one.”
So her and I went today for me to see it. I liked it especially since it grows fast and will provide much needed shade that we need. As I’m looking at it I asked Andrew, “Muck, what makes this tree special?” I wanted a cool story for the tree ceremony and Andrew does not disappoint!
He sez to me, “Look at the color of the leaves Mommy, what color are they?” I take a close look really paying attention and it dawns on me! I tell him “They are green camouflage!” Muck, “What color are my fav shorts??” Me, “Green camouflage! Very cool Muck!” He then sez “What shape are the leaves Mommy??” I look at them and I get even more excited about this tree and tell him “They are heart shaped! I love it! This is so cool Muck! You are the bomb!” He acknowledged that in deed was da bomb and we shared a mother son moment. I could feel his excitement.
The tree is called a Mayho, it’s in the hibiscus family. It will get 20 feet tall and has flowers that bloom yellow, turn orange then red. It’s going to look gorgeous in our front yard amongst our dry, crunchie grass! :-D (Need a little rain)
So as I’m thinking of the ceremony and what I can do to make it special, I remembered what Andrew’s Aunt Julie did at the memorial in Ireland with the Its All Good ribbons. Then I remembered the Chalice Wells tree in Glastonbury. People tied their wishes on the tree branches there. So I’m going to make paper hearts for Andrew’s friends to write him a message and tie it on the tree.
I’m also thinking about giving each of them one Andrew’s mouth wash containers Andrew insisted on saving while in hospital, (he was really weird about it too. I had to save them ALL! I have well over 30!) with some of his ashes in it to sprinkle at the tree root before we bury it then put a crystal in the container that Andrew picks for each friend. Don’t know how they would feel about that but I will ask.
We will have John Denver music and Martin will sing Dreaming Sea since that song Andrew wrote specifically for Martin and I. I’m sure we’ll come up with other special things to do as well.
As I suspected, those of you who are doing something special for Andrew’s b-day, I knew he would let you know how much he appreciates it. Here’s one example I received today……
“I’m listening to the radio, I hear “change the channel”. I’m thinking about it and I hear “change the channel”, so I do and “Imagine” is playing and I hear “Hi Kimberley,” so I say Hi back-thinking it’s Andrew but not sure- and he say’s “Thank you for the tree.” I was so touched but at the same time had a big grin on my face. I felt him there for a short time and it was beautiful. I sang along and the sadness I was feeling lifted, Thanks Andrew!”
He’s a good child!
IT’S ALL GOOD!