I only thought I knew how how much Andrew loved us! As his friends start to come around and hang with us, play video games in his room, I’m finding out more just how much he did love us. I think it helps his friends to feel close to Andrew being here. It’s really nice to have kids around again.
I think they were apprehensive to call or come around not knowing how we would be. I think they thought they wouldn’t be comfortable around us without Andrew. Instead some are more comfortable here than at home. Wesley, as you know came around the holidays and he doesn’t leave for long now when he’s in our neighborhood visiting his grandmother. He loves being here and sharing stories about Andrew. He loves being on the forum on here asking Andrew questions & chatting with everyone.
Now another friend has spent the night with us. He’s had a very rough year. He lost 3 friends this year. Two due to O.D. and then Andrew. Andrew was very concerned about him. His friend is reaching out to us now. YAY! He’s really working hard on straightening his act up. I’m very proud of him, he has been through a hell of a lot this past year. He’s only 15! His parents need to get their act together! I’d like to choke them for the agony they have brought to their kids! They just won’t wake up!
Andrew had some pretty terrific friends. They really love him as Andrew does them. Andrew has touched their very souls. They knew how special he was here. They know he is an Avatar, it all makes sense to them now knowing that. They accepted him for who he was even tho he was “different”
What has been so great to hear is them telling us how much Andrew loved us and ALWAYS spoke very highly of us! We’ve been hearing that lately which has meant the world to me! Even Andrew’s girlfriend has told us how much he loved us and felt so lucky to have us as parents!! I know how close we are but you know how teenagers can be, not wanting to admit they love their parents. Andrew had no problem doing that even to his friends! But he wasn’t your average teenager either! He was definitely in a league all his own!
The more I think about it the more I realize how much of a HUGE blessing this is w/his friends! You know how the ego can step in and it has with me at times. Sometimes I wondered if it was me just being a mother putting my son on a pedestal, mothers are prone to doing that you know. :-D Especially with their sons.
But his friends have confirmed it. Most parents don’t know their teenagers. We weren’t most parents. We spent a lot of time talking and listening to Andrew. We taught each other. We taught him the ways of the human condition and he taught us everything beyond that! When I look back on it, it is even more amazing than I thought it already was. Andrew and I would run errands together and the things he would tell me were incredible! I would tell him he needed to write this stuff down. We needed to be a reality show and have our lives taped! I’m sorry I didn’t tape all our conversations!
For me to hear straight from his friends mouths that “Andrew was that good” made me feel great! They got so upset when he was diagnosed because “How can this happen to him? He does nothing wrong!! He’s so positive!” They were baffled how a kid that was so good could have such a terrible thing happen to him! That’s where Martin and I come in for them to help them make sense of it all.
I almost forgot to mention what my friend in Laguna shared with me last night, in between my tantrums! :-D The 4 of us stayed with her last April when I competed in the Ca. Funniest Female & took Elatia to the Dr in Long Beach. Andrew was close to Daniel her son who’s a 45 yo man in a 12yo. body! I also had a show in Palm Desert & Tammy, my friend, had Marriott rewards so we stayed at the Esmeralda Renaissance Hotel. It was gorgeous. We got 2 connecting rooms. Tammy also has a 17 yo daughter, Cassie, who looks like Hilary Swank, that lives with her father in Palm Springs, she went with us.
We let the kids stay at the the hotel while Tammy, Martin and myself went to the show. I know! Are we crazy to leave 2 teenagers, 1 boy, 1 girl & a 12yo alone at the hotel?? Remember, one of them is Andrew. The kids had a great time together. Cassie hadn’t ever spent any time with Andrew prior to this. Well, Andrew left quite the impression on her. SO much so that when she recently had a writing assignment in school, she wrote about her time with Andrew and got a 100% on it! I’m still waiting for Tammy to send it to me so I can read it. I of course will share it with all of you here! Yes, I can hear you already Swati! LOL I can’t wait to read it because Cassie is a great writer! She brought tears to Martin’s eyes with something she sent him that she wrote.
It touched my heart how much Andrew meant to Cassie with just spending an evening with him. When he was in hospital the 3 of them would occasionally IM when Andrew was up to it. And if he wasn’t then I would IM them.
It sez a lot about Andrew and right when I think I couldn’t be any prouder to be his mother or honored, I find out more about how he’s touched someone else’s heart.
He is continuing to send us gifts. He’s a good child! He brings no bother to the castle door!
IT’S ALL GOOD!
P.S. I better run and actually get some Kool Aide now! :-D