We created a new memory for Oct 22 and a beautiful one at that! Next year on Oct 22nd, I will remember the tender moments shared with people who love Andrew. We had a beautiful, intimate celebration of Andrew’s life and all of us moving a bit closer in to accepting our new relationship with Andrew more.
We just returned to Laguna from a great time in Palm Springs performing and lounging by the pool at a 5 star hotel. Yup! I was leading a metaphysical rock star life for a day! So I am too tired to write a proper blog about our special day on Oct 22 now. But I wanted to touch base to let you know that I will be posting how our beautiful day went. I want to make sure I do our day justice. I want to take you there and I just can’t do it right now, so be patient and I will do it in a day or 2. I am enjoying my time away so very much! I don’t have a lot of time to think and be depressed and it feels great! I like this keeping busy thing doing what I love and hanging with my soul family and friends! IT ROCKS!
Yea, I know, I am being a tease with the title by NOT telling you about the celebration we had. ;-) *evil laugh* Oh well……
IT’S ALL GOOD!
DRUM ROLLLLL PLEEEEEASE! TADA! HERE WE GO!
Our day started with getting ready for the ceremony. Me, Elatia and Tammy went out with our IIAGD t-shrts and finished our shopping for the celebration, spreading the word of IIAGD everywhere we went. One woman in the grocery store had tears in her eyes when I told her about Andrew.
Tamara (my friend and hairdresser here) brought our special guest, Andrew’s girlfriend, Jourdan around noonish.
Tammy had seashells from Siesta Key Beach that we had Jourdan write, “It’s all good” on them. It was for everyone to hold during the ceremony to infuse with love and then leave on the beach for someone to find. I gave Jourdan her presents of Andrew and she just loved them. She really appreciated the crystal with some of his ashes and the polymer clay leaf I made from a leaf from Andrew’s tree, with our Glan Croi symbol in the center. I also gave her one of Andrew’s mouth wash bottles he was so adamant on me saving while in the hospital. I put a few of his amethyst cyrstals in it. Before she went home I asked if she wanted some of his ashes in it and she did.
I wanted to make sure she had a great day so we shared our funny Muck stories, then and now. I kept the energy lighthearted because I knew how hard this day was on her. She has a lot to deal with anyway without the grief of losing the love of her life, her rock. I wanted to create a special memory for her and I think we did accomplished that.
I played Andrew’s myspace page music throughout the day. We talked about Andrew’s love of John Denver and Jourdan had a story to share about that. She said she told Andrew that John was a wife beating, pot head! :-o Uh-oh! Oh no she didn’t! LOL She then says “Yea, I got in trouble for that one!” LOL LOL
Leila arrived as we were getting ready to go to the beach with beautiful pink roses and some kick ass peanut butter chip, chocolate cookies her daughter made in honor of Andrew’s love of Reece cups in hand, and wearing an IIAGD t-shirt from our cafe press store. It looks great! I am pleased with the t-shirts and I’m gonna order me a few.
We all start to make our way down to the beach, we looked like a convoy with cauldron, guitar, cd player, etc. We looked for the perfect spot so not to be disturbed. We were going to use the cauldron to burn our messages to Andrew but there was a fire alert so we didn’t do that.
We found our perfect spot, put Andrew’s pic upon the rock along with the cauldron and seashells. I handed out the paper and pens to everyone as we waited for Brandon, he owns Awakenings metaphysical store, and loves Andrew as Andrew loves him. Andrew loves his store too, he’s 2nd fav metaphysical store…ours was his first!
I started the music cd and Martin and I embraced to the song Andrew had us dance to at his service “I’m Still Here” from Treasure Planet. Then we began to write our messages as the music continues and as the sound of the huge waves crashed before us and the sun made it’s way down to the colorful horizon. It was a beautiful peaceful atmosphere. We had our spots around the rock with Andrew’s pic. I finished my message and notice Jourdan crying as the song is on from Andrew to her. I sat beside her and put my arm around her. I wanted her to feel safe and allow her emotions to flow, and she did. She cried and expressed her feelings and I validated them. I looked at her and told her “You and I are Andrew’s 2 favorite women in his life, that will never change.” It was a beautiful, tender moment with Andrew’s lady. A mother and a girlfriend sharing their loss of the very special man in their lives.
Daniel and Tammy shared a mother son moment as she comforted Daniel on the loss of his best bud.
Elatia captured both moments w/her camera as well as others. She moved around all of us so gracefully capturing these moments without being intrusive. She captured the beauty of the sunset on the beach as well as the emotions of the celebration. She said taking the pics helped her move through her grief. I think she may have a new business here for herself that hasn’t been done before. Taking the painful times in our lives and turning them into something beautiful & memorable. Martin will be creating a slide show of the pics. Yes, I did get a pic of Elatia writing as well.
We all finished writing and put our messages in the cauldron. I had us all hold a lighted candle as Martin then read Andrew’s message to us all about living in joy. I’ll have to have Martin post it on his blog. Brandon showed up after, as did another friend Phil. We gave them a candle and a shell. Before we put our shells somewhere on the beach, Tamara had the idea of taking a pic of our hands holding the shells. So we put Andrew’s pic in the center as our hands circled his pic with the shells that said “IT’S ALL GOOD” It came out so freakin cool! Thank God(dess) for Elatia’s go go gadget arms! :-D
Martin then sang a few of Andrew’s songs that he’s given Martin. But we didn’t end it there, oh no, we just had to take it that one step further. A song that had NOTHING to do with IIAGD or Andrew. Martin sang the parody “The Herpes Song” about Valtrex. Even the girl laying close by on the beach was laughing. SO we ended the ceremony part for our beloved 17yo son with a herpes song. What is wrong with us!!! LOL
When it was over and the sun had set, I thought we would leave but instead we all sat there on the beach talking. I asked Brandon to share with Jourdan how he dealt with losing his brother at 15yo. When he told me about his experience at his store, it touched my heart. He validated me and my emotions in such a beautiful way. I knew Jourdan would benefit from hearing it too. SO Brandon did a bit of teaching to us all. We weren’t people sitting on the beach grieving the loss of a 17yo amazing young man. We were Souls loving and honoring a beautiful evolved Soul’s journey home. A Soul that has touched us in such a deep and profound way. We were sharing an incredible event so much more than our human minds can comprehend but could feel. The Soul comprehends it though. I could feel the energy as it connected each one of our hearts together in honor of one, making us all one.
It was such a beautiful experience. Now next year on Oct 22, I will remember the amazing feeling and beautiful day we had on the beach with special people in my life, in honor of our son’s incredible life! NOT the trauma of losing him. Now that’s what I’m talking about! ;-)
We went back to Tammy’s and enjoyed food, music, and great company!
Anyone who was there, please feel to add anything I may have left out. I’m sure everyone wants to hear about your experience as well.
IT’S ALL GOOD!