Yea, this one is about me! I had a dork sided moment yesterday at the bowling alley. I’m going to blame it on the grieving mother in me! That’s my story and I’m sticking to it! :-D

I don’t bowl. Reason 1. I could break a nail. Reason 2. I get bored after the 3rd frame. Reason 3. I will NOT stick my fingers in any sweaty balls!…..EVER AGAIN!!! Ewwwwwwww! Reason 4. I refuse to wear someone else’s warm, sweaty shoes!! Ewwwwwww! NASTY! NASTY! NASTY! I just threw up a little in mouth with that one!

Sooooo I just go to heckle! I mean lovingly support Marts. LOL :-D Oh and drink either a pitcher of beer or several glasses of wine. It makes bowling a whole lot more fun for me! :-D

What I forgot to mention is that we had lane 22!!! What day did Andrew ascend on??? 22!! Like the neon bright shoes and bright pink bowling balls wasn’t enough of a sign!! LOL

I was sitting at the table NOT minding my own business and heckling the boys but also watching the family next to us. There was a little girl that looked like there’s wasn’t a ball that weighed less than her, bowling. She was so cute. I cheered the kids on in between making fun of the boys. It’s a wonder I’m even allowed to go! LOL

Well, the family is done bowling and the father reads Martin shirt, I mean Andrew’s shirt, the one he wore at the service. The Harry Potter Mischief Managed shirt. He didn’t seem to get it. SO Martin had to explain it was from Harry Potter. I went on to say that it belonged to my son. He looked at Martin and said “He’s not your son?” Now this is where I get all dork sided…I said “No my son passed on nearly 3 weeks ago, he was only 16. He had been diagnosed with leukemia.”

Well, what do you think that did to that poor guy??? He didn’t know what to say! He said I’m sorry to hear that and felt really bad. Did I let him off the hook?? Of course not! Grieving Mother here! Remember!!?? I went to say how amazing Andrew was and what a difference he made at the hospital. He went on to say that he didn’t know what to say. I told him it was ok he didn’t have to feel bad. I told him to just love his kids because this happened out of the blue to us and to just always love your kids because you never know what’s going to happen!

Could I be anymore of a dork???? I made this guy so uncomfortable! If he ever sees me on TV he’ll say “OMG! That’s that weird, crazy lady from the bowling alley!!” ROFLMAO! SO as you can see, grief makes you do weird things! Let this be a lesson to you!

But as Andrew sez IT’S ALL GOOD!

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  1. Leah Clark says:

    OMG Connie… sweaty balls… I’m gonna pee my pants…

    What is that saying about any press is good press? It just means he’ll recognize you sooner! And I don’t think we can always tell how we affect people – he’ll probably be telling Andrew’s story to everyone he knows! :)

    heee heeeee heeeeeeeeeee… I’ll never be able to bowl again without laughing… har dee har har…

  2. Swati says:

    Hmmm… I don’t feel you were dork-sided at all…or made him uncomfortable in a “bad” way. I feel you touched his heart sooooo deep, he’s going to be an even nicer father than he was. I think Andrew and you decided to help him and his kids out…in living a more loving life.


  3. admin says:

    Ahhhh you guys are so kind!! I wanna be there next time u go bowling Leah! LOL I figured I’d confess so I could maybe get some other perspective on it and not beat myself up about it. SO thanks!

  4. Denise says:

    I don’t think you were dork-sided at all either, I agree that you touched him deeply. which will help him to be more inlightened.

    EWWWWWWWWWW I was thinking of going bowling, not now EWWWWWW
    hardy har har

    Luv ya

    Hay how do i get smileys on here speaking of dorky daaaa

  5. Jane says:


    When I had to cancel my brother’s car registration after he passed. I explained the situation to the woman, gave her the documentation and his death certificate. Still, the woman didn’t have a clue. She told me that my brother would have to come in and sign the paperwork. Well….. Naughty Jane came out to play that day. I explained to her, that this might be a little difficult as my brother was dead and cremated. Poor woman didn’t know what to say. It made me smile. Is that really naughty? Ok – don’t answer that.

    Jane xxxxoooo

  6. Karen says:


    Hey girl…bowling is a time honored tradition…beer, wine and all! I am with ya about the using of someone elses stuff, shoes, balls, etc. NOT FOR ME. So I bring my own!

    Sweetheart, you weren’t a dork, you were a mother telling a story about their child, I love you….

  7. admin says:

    Totally understand Jane! I was looking forward to calling the school board and doing the same. I even paused when I said he had been diagnosed w/leukemia to give them a chance to say something stupid like “Well, he still needs to be doing his school work.” LOL But alas they denied me that moment! But she still felt like crap! ;-)

    The school board has always ticked me off because they are sooooo far behind the times which is why I was looking forward to it. My bad :-D

  8. admin says:

    Thanks Karen, you’re comment didn’t come thru till I approved it & I had already posted.

    Yea, if I’m to bowl again?? I will have to have my own stuff. No more sweaty balls for me! OR warm sweaty shoes! Ewwwwwwwwww! LOL

  9. Anna Taylor says:

    Ahhhh. I don’t think you were dork sided. I think he probably felt like he was though. And then felt blessed to have met you and to remember to appreciate his children…

    Love and hugs,

    Anna xxx

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